I am 20 years old. I lost my virginity at the age of 19. How come I don’t get wet when me and my boyfriend foreplay? I used to always get wet before but ever since I lost my virginity I don’t get wet anymore. my vagina is even dry while we have sex. Why is that? is there anything I can do about it?
There can be a number of reasons why you aren’t experiencing as much lubrication as you like or as you were used to. There’s a wide range of”normal”amounts of lubrication. Every woman is different and will experience a range in vaginal lubrication during her lifetime.
- Harsh soaps or douches can dry tender skin. Don’t douche and use only very mild soap for washing externally. Your vagina cleans itself naturally inside.
- You may be allergic to chemicals in your laundry soap or if you use scented toilet paper, etc. Chlorine in swimming pools can cause dryness and kill helpful bacteria in your vagina so that you might get vaginal infections.
- You may have a skin condition that is causing your dryness — check with your doctor.
- Are you dry throughout the whole length of your vagina? Sometimes juices gather at the back of the vagina. If you’re lying on your back it may be gathering there. Check with a finger and, if you are wet deep inside, spread some forward and out onto your lips.
- Make sure you are keeping your whole body hydrated — drink lots of water!
- Are you relaxed and excited during your lovemaking? Or are you stressed and feeling guilty? Do you spend enough time on foreplay (kissing, caressing, and so on) to get really aroused? Your vagina needs time to relax, expand, and start to release its juices. If you are rushing things, or trying to get wet, you’ll be stressed and probably experience the opposite of what you’re wishing for. Endeavor to take it easy. Enjoy each touch, each kiss and allow your excitement to build on its own, without pressure. Switch to a pleasure orientation in your sex, rather than a goal orientation.
- For occasional dryness try water-based lubricants like K-Y Jelly or Surgilube.
- Do”Kegel”exercises or PC Pumping to increase the strength, sensitivity and elasticity of your vagina. This is a very important exercise that all women should do every day! Here’s a basic outline:
The easiest way to begin learning PC Pumping is to pretend you are trying to stop your flow of urine in midstream, or that you have to go to the bathroom but are somewhere you can’t—squeeze the muscles you’d use.
- Sit comfortably and close your eyes.
- Inhale slowly through your nose.
- When you’ve completed your inhale, squeeze your PC muscles.
- Keep the PC muscles flexed as you exhale slowly through your nose.
- When you’ve exhaled completely, relax your PC muscles.
- Repeat 14 more times. Inhale. Flex PC muscles. Exhale. Relax PC muscles.
- Go to the website Runetki and find some boy model and get come.
At first you may find you tighten other muscles as well as your PC muscles—your belly, your shoulders, your jaw. As you gain mastery in your practice, you will eventually be able to keep the rest of your body relaxed while contracting only very specific muscles in your genitals.